69 entails performing oral sex on someone while they perform oral sex on you at the exact same time.
“The most common position for 69-ing is for one person to be lying on their back, and the other person to be lying in the opposite direction on top,” says queer sex educator Marla Renee Stewart, MA, sexpert for adult wellness brand and retailer Lovers.
Do you and your partner basically have an Unofficial 69 Position — meaning one of you is always top and one of you is always on the bottom? If so, invert the position!
Doing so will allow you each to explore each other’s genitals from a new angle, potentially introducing you to new hot spots.
Are you gonna notice paralysis from 69-ing? Probably not.
But (!) if your neck is in a suboptimal position for a long while, it is possible to tweak a muscle, pinch a nerve, or cramp up.
So if you’re on the bottom, protect your neck by supporting it with a rolled shirt, pillow, or other positioning tools.
“The mouth and tongue can do so many things that our genitals can’t do… lick, suck, blow, flick, nip, and bite, to name just a few,” says erotic educator Taylor Sparks, founder of Organic Loven, one of the largest BIPOC-owned online intimacy shops.
“So spend some time exploring what your partner likes,” she says.
Communicate with your partner along the way, giving them the opportunity to tell you what they like.
You might ask:
- “Do you like it better when I flick or suck?”
- “I’m going to try a few different speeds with my tongue. When I do one that you like, will you tell me?”
- “Does this feel good?”
